With 2018 rapidly approaching, we are being bombarded with New Year’s Resolutions. Loose weight! Get healthy! Find happiness… the list is endless. Every year we as a society purchase weight loss supplements, gym memberships, yoga pants and bullet journals in preparation of becoming who we think we should be. The only problem is, all of these resolutions are based on the notion that we aren’t personally good enough. We all have this inner dialog that is constantly tearing ourselves down. Our self-loathing is never greater than it is on January 1st. So what do we do? We spend a ton of money and time planning to be a “new me” when what we should really be doing is learning to love the old one. New Year’s Resolutions encourage us to focus on the broken parts we see; body imperfections, insecurities, relationship struggles… things that every single woman on Earth struggles with. My hope with this post is to visit some common resolutions and instill a little self love in your mind.
Losing weight is hands down THE most common (and the most broken) resolution every single year. It’s easy to see why. This world tells women that we have to be a certain size and shape to be accepted and loved. I’ve fallen into this particular trap since I was in my 20’s. I’ve never been satisfied with my body, at any age. Right now, as you scroll through your social medial, you’ll see tons of posts like these…
all designed to make us feel as though our bodies aren’t acceptable in their current, cookie loving state. Now, I’m not advocating letting yourself go crazy on the junk food aisle; health is important but HEALTH should be the focus, not your jeans size. Eat a balanced diet, play with your kids… but learn to love the body you have for all that it has done for you. When we take a look at what God has to say it puts things into perspective.
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10
Another common resolution is to “fix” our marriages. There is no miracle cure for a struggling marriage and you certainly can’t fix relationship issues with nothing more than the will power that comes with January 1st. Happiness and contentment cannot be found, they have to be grown… through spiritual discipline. That being said, a healthy marriage isn’t a bad thing to work for but it takes Christ to breathe life into a failing marriage, not will power. Social media has created an atmosphere that breeds extramarital affairs and divorce. Have you ever been scrolling through your news feed and see a male friend post about how amazing his wife is? How beautiful, special, perfect… ect. Many of us immediately start comparing that husband to our own. Why doesn’t my husband bring me flowers? Why doesn’t he post on Facebook about how amazeballs I am? Ladies, I don’t have to tell you how this comparison chips away at our marriages. And you know what? Most of the things we see on Facebook are either greatly exaggerated or out and out lies. Very few of the people we follow are authentic (although I do know one or two special couples who are totally sweet in their facebook romance.) We get their best 5 minutes and even that is filtered. Real marriages have struggles because real people are selfish. Rather than vowing to have a better marriage, try vowing to pray for your husband every day. Rather than finding ways to change him, look for ways to serve him. Bringing the servants heart of Jesus into your marriage is the single best way to transform it.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.